this is fantastic. you should read it.
"The goal is to not take critique of a fandom personally, unless we are being specifically 'called out' for embodying fandom's problematic nature, and in either event to take a step back and evaluate one's own behavior given the standards the critique references ('gender parity,' in the case of mysogyny, & so on). If the critique is valid, we should evaluate ways to change - or, as I've said elsewhere, 'fail better' - and to encourage those in our radius to think and to change for the better."
But seriously, though: Holden Caulfield? Fuck that guy.